Married people only: Any advice to singles trying to find their ';true love';?

Preferrably the ones who are happily married.





How did you know that was the right person for you? What are some things you saw in them that made them different from others that that's why you married them? Pls, give me advice, what to do, what not to do ... Thanks.Married people only: Any advice to singles trying to find their ';true love';?
take this at face value........Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate, ......A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.





Don't get in to marriage thinking only of what you gonna get out it, think more of what you gonna give to make the marriage work. It is to complete each other and not to compete. Your mate has weaknesses as well as you do. So, learn to overlook.





Above all, make sure you take the whole package.....';for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health till death do you part'; its also call COMMITMENT.





all the best!Married people only: Any advice to singles trying to find their ';true love';?
We've been married almost 18 years. We knew each other a year, dated for two. At marriage, I was 28 and he was 38. We met at church. He wasn't the man I would have married at 19 or 23 - other guys I was serious about. It just took that extra time of becoming my own woman. Finished post-secondary training, went out into the workforce to start my career - just accumulating life experiences and finding out what was important.


It happened to me when I least expected it. He literally came out of the blue into my life.


I think guys can smell desperation a mile away - so I think a lot of times a girl has to stop ';looking'; and just go on with their lives, working, volunteering, spending time with family and friends - just making yourself a better person - and love will come.
Not married quite yet but planning it and felt as if we'd known each other many years prior to actually having met. She and I can be ourselves 100% without judgmentalism; we can talk about anything; we have some shared interests but some different ones to keep from being bored; we just ';connect'; as one being rather than two; neither one of us wants to be separated from the other - I could spend eternity standing besides her in silence.





As for her good qualities: #1: she doesn't play games; #2: she is a giver; #3: she is sexy, yet cute in a girlish fashion; #4: she has a good sense of humor; #5: she thinks for herself; #6: she is my true best friend; #7: she makes me feel special when I am with her; #8: she is smart and intellectual EXCEPT when she's a tomboy running away from home going to the fishin' hole wearing no shoes!





As for what to do and not to do, don't try too hard. Realize that none of us with soulmates got them by being players. It just happens when it's going to happen, but by being realistic you can cut off many false trails. Brush up on women's/men's psychology and learn to understand the difference between the two mindsets. Many good books out there on the subject. Start with a broad subject search on


http://www.barnesandnoble.com/





Then take it slowly and use SOME logic but don't be a cold-blooded scientist on this. And for God's sake do NOT go to bars! The best places to meet are (in no particular order):


Supermarket, Mall, Library, Gym, Parks/Museums, Work/school, Gourmet Coffehouses and Online (worst).





Happy searching!
I knew my husband was ';the one'; because he was/is my best friend and even when we were still dating, he was the only one I felt comfortable being myself with.
you dont just find true love, true love finds you. when my husband approached me the first time he asked about ME, then he said the soul knows no age because of the age difference,(me being older) and we went for a friend date that night and since then we were together. it just happens. neither one of us were looking at the time we both were just working associates. we spent alot of time talking the first time he approached me. the eyes dont lie. nor does the body language. confident yet relaxed. when you miss them and they have only been away a day or two, thats a good sign. dont rush and it will happen. anything worth having is worth waiting for and true love will develope over time. it;ll happen. you will know because the feeling of a TRUE love is like no other ! good luck .
Ask a happily married woman friend (or a single male friend) to get you a nice guy suited to you... tell your friend what you like in a guy and to set you up on a couple of dates, so you can interact and see which one you like- it helps (specially if a man selects a partner for you... they know their kind) :-)





Good Luck!
i would like to say this it is hard for you to scan through the person you love dearly..if he is the man for you or not..you can always feel love but you can't see love..any guy or lady can show love from within,but actually how long???....he or she minds can change suddenly from a friend or family member,even by culture differencies...all depends on both sides from the guy or lady to be committed and to put all differencies aside,otherwise the marriage will be damage...i was married for 10years..the first year was great,after that things just change from great,to head aches and heart breaks..all because friends,family,and cultural differencies....plus,she comes from a family that has too much pride...she wants to feel and to be in power of our marriage so she can make her friends and family members know she can over rule myself.....i just got tired of the whole drama and left...i gave her 9years.to change her attitude..unfortunately it was too much time and too late for her to change....when she notice i put a stop on our marriage,that's when she puts me infront of everyone else...but it was too late to show me.....try getting a mutal agreement from the court before you both get married..so,if worse comes into play...you can leave him and he has nothing to recieve from you...i did not know that from the start until i got married.....ok,i hope things turns out great for you in your future marriage...i am sorry i did not avoid your add,but i just wanted to point out some views from the disadvantages from a marriage%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;friends,family members,and culture......good luck
if one can socially and otherwise afford to live single that s the best living
First off get over this idea that there is a difference between true love and love. Love is nothing more than a commitment to continue to care for someone. There is no such thing as a soul mate either. This is all just fairy tail hype that distorts the reality needed to make a healthy relationship. Go for character not some fuzzy feeling. Don't confuse lust either as this is the ultimate deceiver.





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Well, we were two of the ';lucky'; ones.





It was the summer of her graduation and we had both already experienced our first real relationships which didn't last. We were both in an emotional position to find another person.





True, we were both young and horny - like most teens - but we both had decent, loving parents, and when we first met, our intuition (young as it was) told us that the other person was kind, intelligent, non-neurotic, etc.





I guess time and intuition are the two biggest factors. We made a good first impression on each other and that impression was not contradicted in the days, weeks, and months that followed.





We had a LOT of common interests, and they were activities that didn't co$t much. We enjoyed the simple pleasures of life as well as the more exotic and sophisticated.





I mean, most healthy, sane people are attracted to one another visually, physically. It's not rocket science. But what matters is just taking the time to discuss the important issues instead of just dating and being on your ';best behavior'; all the time.





Get to know the person. Open up to each other. Talk about deep, dark concerns and secrets.





Only by doing that will you avoid ';rude awakenings'; early in a marriage.
sorry i'm not married anymore but feel like answering your question... i was married when i'm 19 and the girl was my childhood sweet heart since 7 are family are very close to each other and we grew up together until we got married.. we thought that that we were meant to be and destined to be together.. we where married for 10 years with kids until one day we separated ways.... all i can say is love is love... true love is always there sometimes you can feel like its magic when you are with that person but the real happiness of marriage you don't even need to find the perfect guy coz until you are married you can never tell the true color of your partner... my advice to you now is when you get married there should be trust respect and fear on God with this element you'll be happy